I have recently found myself in a situation that my insecurities swelled up and got in my way. It was such a silly thing though: the radio station I listen to was giving away free tickets to a show in my area and I wanted to try to call in for a chance to win and take my husband on a date. I just couldn’t bring myself to make the call. What was I so afraid of? The worst thing that could happen was absolutely nothing, my phone call wouldn’t go through in time and i wouldn’t get the tickets. The best thing that could happen is that I would win. What was my hesitation about then? I believe I was actually more afraid of winning than not getting through at all. I was more afraid of the best case scenario then the worst case scenario, so I hesitated long enough to ensure the worst case would happen. Silly right?
There are many people who are afraid of unknown social situations. It is a constant battle that I have lived with in my life. The desire to be admired vs the fear of the spotlight. There is a natural desire to be noticed and liked by others, yet the thought of having to handle a conversation or “keep your cool” when other people are watching is completely terrifying. There are so many insecurities that I have had to overcome in my life, and several more to keep chipping away at as I go. It helps to hear that other people go through the same feelings. There are many times I have heard that I shouldn’t worry about how I appear in a social situation because everybody else is too busy worrying about their own appearances to notice anyways. If this is such a common occurrence, it should not be hidden like it is a quality to be ashamed of.
Insecurities are like teenagers, you should embrace them for what they are rather than try to control them. Embrace your insecurities and you will naturally flourish into the person you work so hard to be by pushing them aside. Laughing at my own mistakes is a quality that I would prefer over not making any mistakes at all. Sharing this silly story of calling into the radio station is only one step for embracing my insecurities…and believe me, there are several more stories that I can share. It’s a good feeling to know that I can look back and laugh at myself.
A good friend of mine sent me the following link that I can really relate to. Enjoy! 5 Tips to Help You Recover From Perfectionism.