Life is not fair. Those who do the best work aren’t always the one’s who get rewarded for their efforts. Life is not built on a merit system like we are brought up to believe with our school system (work hard and you earn good grades). We are all working so hard to reach a state of the “perfect” life situation, but the truth is that image you have in your mind of what the “perfect” life would be does not actually exist. There are probably a million things that you have forgotten to factor into your personal fantasy. And all those little pesky details are probably the best parts. Besides, is living that easy-life really what you want?
In my experience, the best things in life ALWAYS take work and effort. The “easy life” is an oxymoron that tricks people into trying to be something that isn’t natural. I am from a generation that has learned to “pursue your passions” and “find a way to do what you love for a living and you’ll be happy”. But it just isn’t that simple. Even if you find a carrier that encompasses everything you enjoy, once it becomes your means of paying the rent, you are bound to have days when you just don’t feel like doing it.
You can never escape the responsibilities of life. So rather than trying find something you love to do, wouldn’t it be more beneficial in the long run to learn to love the things you have to do? If you learn to love the short walk to the curb once a week to take the trash out, it doesn’t feel like such a chore that you want put off until the last minute.
Life is not just a simple input-output machine. I believe it is wrong to expect specific results/reactions to my efforts/actions. The process of choosing and implementing my actions should be the reward itself. They are not separate events. Cooking dinner is not the effort required for a reward of good food, but rather, cooking dinner is the action and the reward (getting to cook dinner). This is then followed by eating dinner being the action (effort of eating) and reward (nourishing my body).
There is no difference between the action and the reward. They are the same thing. Every moment is living an action/reward pair to be enjoyed to its fullest. Doing good, hard work is reward in itself because you know you can do it. Enjoy the journey and stop focusing on the destination (it may not even exist).
“It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.”
― Ernest Hemingway